“Parent-Power Pete” The Aussie with a lot of Good Answers, ….. has 2 Free Guides for you, NOW

…and a helpful video too..

“Parent-Power Pete” ! – how dinky is that?
(But it will stick in your mind - sorry about that!)

What are his characteristics and abilities that make him worth listening to?

• A bit of Irreverence - that characteristic was necessary to challenge the accepted views of autism, and to make some ground-breaking distinctions that will benefit you more than any other source of autism information.

• An ability to cut through all the fluff and hype surrounding a subject, which may be a generally Australian attribute, and to get to the heart of the matter, to help you see the issues that really count:

i.e. that ‘Withdrawal to Own World due to Stresses’ is the key issue, not running around patching symptoms of autism (like poor social skills) See video.

• A rare Sensitivity to understanding what your Child is really experiencing, and translating it so you can understand, so you can put yourself in your Child’s shoes, as the You Experience Autism Series from the Home Page illustrates.

An acute Understanding of what You as a Parent Need, to help you navigate these turbulent autism-waters, for example the “First Steps” Checklist recognizes that above all you need a different Attitude when raising a Child with stronger autism-orientation, and describing it clearly for you. And that change in attitude and approach will help you more than anything else at the start.

Also he recognizes (before you do) that autism will make you more tired than you expect, and therefore you will need to find more time and energy if you are going to absorb all the autism-training. Consequently he constructed the much- needed “Finding Extra Time and Energy” Guide for you.

… so please forgive him the dinky pseudonym, it’s really there to help ‘lighten up the show’ a bit!

(1) “The First Steps” Checklist:

Finally get the hang of how to really connect with your Child !

Really connect with your Child, how?
• by using Timing and Voice-tone
• by “Getting on your Child’s Wavelength”
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Bonus: in addition to receiving the Checklists
you will also be offered our 3-email series
that will complete your “basic training”

(2) Find more Time and more Energy

“There’s one thing I need even more than good advice!”(actually two things)

(1) TIME to read all the Autism information

(2) More ENERGY to put it all into Action!
This Free Guide will get you more of both!
Put in your details below

(Click on either orange box to get both Guides)
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Bonus: in addition to receiving the Checklists
you will also be offered our 3-email series
that will complete your “basic training”

Comments from Others

“I thoroughly endorse “Parent-Power Pete’s Training! His approach and methods have transformed my son from almost totally absorbed in Own World, to a balanced individual with “B” level mainstream school results, good friends and good times!” Mignonne d.W.

“There’s no doubt that Pete’s Programs work, and not just a bit, a LOT !!!” George & Rita C.

To see if it is right for you, here is the beginning of the “First Steps” Mild Autism Checklist

This is practical parent-to-parent conversation about early ways to help your Child
(Our son is now doing well: at 22 he is responsive, friendly and is studying at tertiary level.)
But some things we learned the hard way. This Checklist has been produced for you,
so you don’t have to learn it all the hard way!

Tick this box, to confirm you are now seeking advice, noticing your son or daughter (or other loved
one) appears less-responsive than most children. And maybe he.she has other odd behaviour.
The rest of this Checklist helps you understand what to do next.

Your instinct is to draw your Child out, make him or her respond to you.
Tick the box once you admit that insisting your boy.girl pay attention to you doesn't really work.
Why does badgering not work? There are many reasons, that you will learn about over time.
(a) One common reason is that he.she has Oversensitivity: eg to sound, touch, smell. When strong
physical intrusions make you feel overwhelmed, you naturally prefer to stay in Own World.
Can you identify which are the “overload-causers” (e.g. loud noises?)Try to reduce them!
Create an uncluttered calm place in the house/backyard for your Child to retreat from the overloads.
(b) Another reason, perhaps even more common, is that although your boy or girl may not look
overactive, his or her head is buzzing with thoughts that occupy his.her attention. The thoughts may
also be confusing so they take concentration to work them out. So your input doesn't get through
much, or at all. In fact your instructions and questions may be adding to the confusion.
As you'll see below, there are techniques to use that can help your loved one to relax.

If you accept that you need different ways to engage your loved one, tick these boxes as you go,
as you try more “specialised approaches”. The specialised approaches will give your Child

*more Self-Confidence, and* your Child will start Trusting/ Relaxing with you more

(a) When your youngster is upset, don't try to "solve the distress" or "tell him or her what to do".
Simply be with your Child, even if you need cotton wool in your ears to remain calm.
Your presence may not be acknowledged, but it is felt: your Child will take comfort from you.
When you are simply there, not demanding anything, you’re buildingTrust and Calmness.
Your Child may respond to your offered hand, or may accept a hug after a while... 15 minutes?

Tick once you have tried this non-demanding "being-with" technique. Do you feel peace growing?
(b) At times when your Child is playing (even if strangely) or making noises, Copy your Child's
behaviour alongside him or her.
It may feel awkward, but do it. In this way you are approving the
behaviour, not criticising for a change, and thus you are building up both Trust and Confidence.

Tick after you have tried this a few times - do it enthusiastically - are you feeling a connection
starting to happen? If it takes a little while longer, try again later, don't give up at the start!
(c) “I want to reach, and teach my Child!” Absolutely, but the key for you is correct Timing.
Though sometimes you might want to immediately share or teach something you find stimulating,
in your special case you can only do it when your Child is in his.her most Receptive state.

Tick when you realise you must wait until these times occur. At the times that you realise your
Child is somewhat receptive, slowly gain his or her attention. You may need to mute some of your
enthusiasm so your intrusion does not overwhelm. Introduce your input gently. It may be received.
(d) “But I want my Child to become ‘normal’, not forever living in his.her Own World”.
Your attitude is right! In the early ages however, even up to five, your opportunity to help is limited
due to the higher levels of overwhelm at these ages.

Tick once you are giving him.her more Structure by describing activities in the form of pictures,
like setting up a daily Picture Board. Google “Autism daily schedule board” and buy or adapt one.
Your Loved one gains more Confidence and less Anxiety knowing what is going to happen next.

At the beginning your Child will still be mostly in Own World while developing Trust/Openness
and Confidence. The more exciting and rewarding times come when you can occasionally help your
Child reach out of Own World and contact /interact with the Real World: having an adventure!
These opportunities increase with age, and the opportunities increase even more with the fuel you
are adding to their fire -the Confidence and Trust you are now building up!

The way to get your Child to become more aware of the world, and to learn about interacting with
others, is to get them interested in playing Games. If your boy or girl has fun playing Games in the
Real World then you are “selling” him or her the benefits of being in the Real World. 'Want more!'
Teaching Game-playing is the crux of “Real World Training” (details:www.mild-autism.com).
(You will learn, for example, the best first Games are to simply extend what your Child is doing.)

Realistically, you have to direct your Child in daily tasks, and stop him.her doing dangerous things.
But help him.her more, because giving lots of behaviour-instructions only agitates your Child,
he.she only retains the memory of your agitation etc, not the learning you are trying to impart.

Tick if you can acknowledge this. There will be less friction, and importantly, less eroding of Trust.
Your own stresses must be examined here too. Bringing up any kid is stressful, but your situation
demands more of you. If your Child is frequently and loudly upset, (medication may be an option at
severe times) you cannot help but absorb more stress. Uncertainty also increases your stress: so if
your partner has different ideas about what to do in the chaos, “spirited” arguments can result..!

Tick when you both acknowledge this happens, or is likely to happen. And be good to each other!
Don’t make big plans requiring lots of energy while your Child is very young, because the need for
vigilance, being ready for unexpected upsets, will require energy enough from you. You won’t
don’t hear this often – but if you work to a good plan, your Child will improve hugely over time!
“Change of Focus” is a good start: take pleasure from smaller successes, and from being the best
parent you can be. Reward yourselves more deliberately after your extra efforts. (Note your Child is
less stressed about social-failures than you, because of lack of awareness of what he.she is missing.)
And a final, somewhat unexpected comment – RESPECT your Boy or Girl’s Own World..!
Do not always try to drag your boy or girl from it, because especially in early years,
frequent Retreat to Own World is what is keeping your loved one relatively balanced!

Tick the box when you recognise this important fact. And remember, we all have our 'Own Worlds'
that we go to when things are too much, just as often. So we are all Autistic, just not as much.
Indeed before your Child becomes overloaded, offer the Own-World time(eg retreat to own room).
(and note that when you Copy your Child you are actually joining him or her in Own World)
Finally, you may feel there are a lot of differences at the moment, but with mildautism, there is
nothing “wrong” with your Child, and this “Real World Training” will help you realise the fact!
More is available at www.mild-autism.com from or email me at petercole@mild-autism.com.

To get the rest of this Checklist, click the orange box at the top of the page

Notes on the “First Steps” Mild Autism Checklist you see above:

(1) Even if you and your Child are well-past this early stage of autism-awareness there is still a lot of usefulness in the Checklist !

Why? Because it gives you a new point of view,
A new Understanding-based’ Orientation that you will not have seen before.

If you adopt this new “Understanding-based Orientation”,
which is a gentler, less-directive method,
it will work better than your more-vigorous efforts up to now,
and it will take much distress out of your interactions with your Child,
and even more importantly it will give you
better insights into your Child’s Thinking that you ever had before!

(2) Later in the Checklist you will learn the answer to
“how can I help my boy. girl attend to what is going on around him or her?”
Here’s a simple motivation process you won’t see anywhere else on how to do it.

(3) You will find information on Stress-relief, this time for You not your Child!

(4) An unexpected comment on ‘the new way to think of your boy or girl’s ‘Own World’ and why approaching it in this ‘new way’ will work better for you!
- it’s not what you would expect!

Why is this Guide is in the form of a Checklist?

It is so you have the opportunity to interact with it more.
It makes you acknowledge what you are reading in a more positive way,
ticking when you have taken the comments on board (or crossing if you don’t agree!)

Either way it will have a greater impact on you
– with a consequent stronger ‘call to action’ on your part,
than if you just had a passive read.