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This “How it starts” commentary deals with
how our Loved Ones are affected by their Oversensitivities.
Click here to read “How Autism Starts”
(on the Home Page of Mild-Autism.com)
Oversensitivities interfere and conflict with the “connection-instinct”
that babies have towards their parents.
Unfortunately this connection conflict makes our kids feel much more on their own…
Birth, and struggling to understand, is traumatic for all of us!
(that’s why all babies cry – humans have super computer brains compared
with animals, so they have a harder time understanding the world’s input at the start )
How much more so for our Children who are more sensitive in one respect or another!
“How it Starts” also deals with comprehension:
How we grow to understand the ‘patterns’ that make up
the world around us;
how we learn to predict and better-control the patterns,
– and how breaks in pattern-understanding due to
a brain that is overactive or oversensitive in some areas
leads to less ability to perceive and control what is around us.
Unless it receives targeted help as this site offers.
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2 replies to "How Mild Autism Starts – your comments welcomed"
My son has been referred to a paediatrician.
My son is a slightly confusing case because he is a very loving and happy boy
and you wouldn’t think autism immediately.
He struggles with communication and understanding when to say words, that he does use.
He often day dreams, as I call it,
and does not socialise with other children very well,
as he is not taking in what is around him.
I would love to understand more what he is experiencing.
Hi Janine,
I sympathise with your comment “my son is a slightly confusing case”-
because you have probably been led to believe
all sorts of stereotypes about autistic kids,
and yours “doesn’t quite fit” being loving and happy.
Stereotyping people, like all prejudice, reduces our ability to
individually examine and treat a person,
or confuses you because he doesn’t fit the generalised definition, as you said.
I would say almost all autistic kids have the capacity to be loving
(because since they are humans like us, before anything else
they all need the feelings of loving and being loved) –
it is merely a matter of helping them access the real world,
and access their feelings to reach their loving potential.
You are fortunate in that your boy is closer to
what is called “neurotypical” than many,
but that doesn’t mean you can’t help him further,
in fact your job is easier than many parents
because of his current abilities.
You said “I would love to understand more what he is experiencing” –
I think you are starting from the right point –
UNDERSTANDING is the first step to take
(though many people want to start “correcting” before this step..!)
This is why I spent so much time and effort on the mild-autism site
trying to help you get into the mind of your loved one FIRST.
Along the side of the home page is the series called
“Would You like to experience Autism?” so you can select the
aspects that most represent your child; and once you gain better
understanding you can move on from there.
I selected a page from that series, under the title “How it starts”, page 6:
http://www.mild-autism.com/how-it-starts/6/
which may (or may not!) describe your youngster, I was thinking about part (b) on that page.
You might also look at the block below that one, entitled
“Your Confusion about everything” Fortunately in your son’s case,
stress seems to be less a part of his confusion than I describe in this commentary, since as you say he is happy.(that’s great!)
You might also click on the “wheel” up the top of the home page of
the mild-autism site (www.mild-autism.com)
perhaps click on “Can’t self express” or “is obsessed with own topics”,
I think both those categories are appropriate to your boy,
and will help you in your voyage of discovery. Best Wishes!